The Cantelmo Family {Guest Post}

Melanie, from the Cantelmo Family, is here today to bless us.  I am over at her blog doing a wreath tutorial.  


Hi my name is Melanie and I have a little blog over here.
I am so thankful to have met Liz and am excited to swap blogs with her today!
I look forward to meeting you, so pop on over and say hi.
I started blogging to keep my family in Canada updated on how our family was doing down in toasty Arizona.
Soon I realized I could use my blog to bless and minster to others.
I blog about my faith, family, parenting and some other fun stuff (like giveaways and my attempts to be crafty). 
I pray that I can be a blessing and encouragement today as I share with you what’s on my heart.
A few weeks ago I was shopping at Target with all three of my busy super active kids. We were managing well, until my middle daughter had a melt down. She didn’t want to stay in the cart and when I allowed her out, she ran as fast as she could.
I calmly put her in the cart and the screaming started.
It got louder and louder. Then the screaming turned into crying.
Everyone was looking at me.
I felt like everyone was judging me.
Then my daughter started saying she wanted chocolate. I told her no because I didn’t want to reward bad behavior. Then a lady looks at me and rolls her eyes.
Have you been there?
I know most of us have.
Our kids aren’t robots; they don’t always behave perfectly. 
Especially when they are hungry, tired or fed up.
I always thought I’d be the best parent ever until I became one.
God has completely humbled me.
It isn’t easy to raise kids; I have to fully rely on Him to help me.
As if parenting wasn’t hard enough then we have to add on the constant judgment we get from others.
Do you feel that way?
As mommy’s we are judged if….
We are too strict or too lenient
We breast feed or bottle feed
We let them cry it out or cuddle them too long
Our kids are having a temper tantrum at the store or church
We are a single parent or going through a divorce
We don’t parent how “they did” back then
We buy take out or go through a drive thru
We eat organic or we don’t eat organic
We gain too much weight during pregnancy or not enough weight
We caved and bought a van (I call mine the momma mobile)
Sometimes we judge others….
I can’t believe she would……
How could she let her child do that….
How can they let their kids go there….
My kid would never act that way….

Unfortunately, I have to admit I’ve judged others.
Then a few minutes later I’ll get frustrated because I will “feel” that someone is judging me.
I have learned that I can only control myself my thoughts and my actions.
If I don’t want to be judged, I shouldn’t judge others.
When I catch myself starting to judge I say to myself
 Matthew 7:1 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.”

I desire to love like Jesus loves. So often I fall short.
Jesus loved prostitutes, tax collectors, the diseased, imperfect people and sinners like me. He didn't judge them; He just loved them.
One of my favorite quotes by Mother Theresa is:
“If you judge people you have no time to love them.”

Isn’t this so true?
Lets focus more on loving others than judging them.
Lets stick up for one another when someone starts judging.
Lets not give dirty looks at the frazzled mom in Target while her little one is having a meltdown.
Lets love on the single mom who is struggling to get by.
Lets love on the broken.
Lets love on the unlovable.
Lets pray that God would give us His eyes.

Thank you for allowing me to share my heart with you today.
If you often feel judged because of your situation or past,
know that God is a redeeming God and He can use your situation for good. You just have to let Him!
If you would like to read how God has changed my life,
read my testimony here


Thank you so much, Melanie!!!



  1. I'm totally cheering! This was such a great post. I love the Mother Theresa quote and the quote in the photo below it. Such good reminders!

  2. love this... and your honesty. :)