Unconditional {Love}

I know Mark and I were placed together by God's hand.  He wasn't my usual type.  He wasn't the star athlete (although he is athletic... he just didn't care for sports much in high school).  He wasn't the bad boy ( I seemed to always gravitate towards them and try to fix them).  He wasn't the player (they are always such a challenge, right?).

Instead, he was respectful.  He was a gentleman that didn't play games.  He committed to one person and didn't want to waste his time with meaningless relationships. 

Why did I deserve him?  I'm not totally sure.  I believe that God puts people together who work for the good of His kingdom.  So when I say we have unconditional love... it's because we aren't the "perfect" match that people are always saying they are waiting for.  We aren't E-Harmony compatible.
We are, instead, God's plan.  And, that is way better than any online compatibility test.  We have our disagreements and we are working on a huge learning curve- absolutely.  My point is this... how can you have unconditional love for someone if you never have to look past their ugliness?  If you are totally compatible, how do you grow in love?  

We both have qualities that the other doesn't prefer, but we learn to grow and love the person even in spite of them.  We love even though they leave their clothes lying around.  We love even though the perfect meal isn't on the table.  We love even though one of us snaps at the other.  We know what real love is, because we married an imperfect person.

No one loves truer than Jesus.  The Perfect loves the imperfect.  


  1. I feel like I could have written this about my marriage! Thanks for reminding us that God's plan is better than any storybook marriage.

  2. I have found through my relationship and many others - like yours- that its the "not usual" type that we all fall for. We think we know what we want, but God knows best. I am thankful everyday for Gods plan.

    Beautiful post.


  3. Very good Liz.
    Too many times people have the misconception that things have to be perfect and that is simply unattainable.
    We have to love our spouses the way God love's us all...UNCONDITIONALLY!!!!

    Thanks for the reminder :)

  4. Great post! I think it's amazing how we wind up with someone who we never pictured ourselves with!

  5. Looved this post! Especially the part where you said, we love even when he leaves his clothes on the floor..that happens daily for me. But I still pick them up to wash cause thats just what ya do. Its taken me quite some time to get the "everything should be perfect" out of my head. When I relize life is oh so good to us, and we have a wonderful marriage, things go so much smoother. Im so grateful for Gods amazing plan for all of us!

  6. Mindee~ I totally agree. We have to quit thinking that everything is going to be like the movies. We will have amazing times, and then we'll have trying times. That is how we grow. :)
    Thanks for your comment!!!

  7. Isn't that amazing? It's the same for me- My husband is the total opposite of any other guy I'd ever dated or wanted to date. And somehow, we are perfect for each other. God's plan is written all over it.
    Great post :)

    If Work Permits

  8. Found you through follow fest {through Casey's blog}. I loved this post and the similarities in our relationships. You said, "We aren't E-Harmony compatible. We are, instead, God's plan." Beautifully said! I feel the same about mine and our relationship. You have a lovely way of explaining it... thank you for sharing!

  9. Thank you, all, for your sweet and encouraging comments!

  10. Liz! I cant even begin to tell you how much I needed this today.. we are deff going through a little rough patch.. but your right "We aren't E-Harmony compatible. We are, instead, God's plan"
    I even put this as my FB Status! Thank you!!

  11. Great post! I always say my husband and I are truly a case of opposites attract. He was definitely not who I thought I would end up with and I am so glad I did.

  12. So true, and a great reminder. I feel the same way about my husband: we're both far from perfect, but somehow we're still right for each other.

    Glad you two found each other!

  13. Liz: What a well written and inspiring post. We do have a lot in common as far as our marriages go. I will work harder at always remembering that WE are God's plan. Thank you for your support and linking up with Cherishing my Memories.Hope you come back next week :)

  14. I am LOVING your blog, girl!!!! You are so inspiring!!! Thanks for sharing!!!

  15. yall are so blessed to have each other, despite differences... and seeing God's grace for your marriage: what a true true blessing! love to yall today!!

  16. Your newest follower!! Your story sounds a lot like mine! Isn't it just the best to be the married to the man that you know God picked out just for you!?

  17. hi! found you through Casey's link-up:). loved this post:)...my husband and i are doing this bible study on a book called Crazy cycle (Dr. Emerson) and it has kinda enforced the things you spoke about here. realizing there are differences...but showing your love for the other regardless of how you feel or what you'd like to say or do. it's not always easy, but God is good. and we are definitely learning:).

    not on the subject, your family is adorable. and you are so gorgeous:). love your blog:). new follower!



  18. Great post and I TOTALLY relate. My husband was always such a gentlmen. SO lovely and considerate and didn't waste my time. I love him to pieces! I'm stopping by from Lee La La's link up:) nice meeting you. Your blog is adorable

    xoxoxo Hanna

  19. Beautiful post! LOVE your blog! Nice to meet ya!

  20. I SO needed this reminder today. Thanks for linking up my sweet friend :)

  21. could this be a more beautiful post? i feel like i could have written it myself. you and your hubby make a gorgeous couple by the way..


  22. i love this post! it's so true! the Perfect does love the imperfect and i think we're brought together with our spouses to help us grow in this life. We can learn so much from each other, and especially our differences...otherwise what is unconditional love for?? Love your cute blog, thanks for stopping by mine! :)