Motherhood Monday // The Battle for Perfection


This post is going to be difficult to write,
mainly because it hits so close to home.
I want to preface my point by saying I adore staying home with my kids.
I look forward to seeing them every morning (though, not at five AM- stay in bed, Liam!)
and hearing their stories about dreams they had the night before.

Motherhood is a gift.
I am always careful to guard my heart against 
the temptation to slay and mutilate one of the most beautiful aspects of life-

It is far too easy to point out how tiring, selfless, and revealing motherhood can be.
It can create a rawness that can't be matched.
But, with all that comes the loveliness of motherhood.
Laughter, unconditional love from little people who see you as their entire world,
downy-haired bed head, snuggles, and the list could go on and on.

To my point.
As women, we are always comparing ourselves to other women,
most of which we feel do things better than ourselves.
We are, by nature, perfectionists.

The cycle- perfectionism leads to comparison,
comparison leads to judgement,
judgment leads to hate.

  There is nothing wrong with wanting to do your best.
That desire, at its root, is a good thing.
The trouble is when our best is never enough.

When, as a mother, you fail to engage because you fear you aren't perfect (and, you aren't),
you are enslaved to the sin of perfectionism.
When you don't open your doors to share life with others because there is a thick
line of dust around your floors, you are enslaved to the sin of perfectionism.
When you constantly apologize for the mac and cheese you served your friend's kids
during your play date because you worried that is wasn't fresh and MSG-free,
you are enslaved to the sin of perfectionism.
When you find yourself often times apologizing for your
child's behavior because they aren't perfect either,
you are enslaved to the sin of perfectionism.

There is nothing wrong with desiring and working toward a clean house,
or dust-free wood floors, or fresh, clean eating, and expecting good behavior from your kids,
but when it keeps you from being real-
there is a problem.

This isn't a ticket for laziness and being idle.
That can be an idol, too.
It is simply encouragement to center our hearts on the cross
and look to Christ as our Perfector of all things.
It is encouragement to let down our walls and the quest for perfection
and to live a full life.


  1. Very well written, Liz. I only wished I would've learned this when our children were young. I fell like I missed out on a lot of moments because I was too busy making sure the house was perfect. After all, I was HOME ALL DAY!!!

    1. I know! A home that is "lived" in for so many hours gets so messy. lol I think you did a great job with those amazing kids.

  2. Thank you for this. I really needed to read this.

    1. I'm so glad, Sydney. I hope you have a blessed day!!