I have definite opinions, but none of that ultimately matters. The big deal, and it is, in fact, a big deal, is that souls are being fought over. Some will be won and some will be given over to their evil desires (Romans 1:24,25). Those desires differ from person to person and it is important to know that every desire, aside from those planted in your soul by the Holy Spirit, are evil (Romans 3:10). Where one lonely victim's flesh is acceptable by the world's standards, another's is pitched into the blazing fire and regarded as rubbish.
Those evil desires are indeed just that- rubbish. The flaw is that any sin at all is accepted by God's people. For we know that those outside of God's will, in fact, accept all sorts of sinful behavior . And, if you do accept sin as less than sin, you must, then, question your own heart and motives. Sin is cunning and creeps in like a snake through a rabbit hole. It disguises itself as holy and puts on the skins of sheep. So many times I sit thinking my self-love is under control, only to realize that it is a consuming fire that has overtaken me as I drown in a veil of pride.
Tozer says it brilliantly when he states, "In human experience that veil is made of spiritual tissue; it is composed of the sentient, quivering stuff of which our whole beings consist, and to touch it is to touch us where we feel pain. To tear it away is to injure us, to hurt us and make us bleed. To say otherwise is to make the cross no cross and death no death at all. It is never fun to die. To rip through the dear and tender stuff of which life is made can never be anything but deeply painful. Yet that is what the cross did to Jesus and it is what the cross would do to every man to set him free."
It is painful to be stripped of sin. To put away the flesh and allow Jesus' blood to do its sanctifying work is inwardly painful. But, to live eternally with Him, you must allow that. You must surrender. If there isn't any pain, then there will be no morning. If there is no dying to the fleshly desires, no matter how infinite or minuscule, then there is serious need for self-inspection and knees better be hitting the floor in absolute surrender to Christ and His cross. To love Him is to love all of Him. Anything less is merely rubbish by eternal standards.